Always make it a priority to guard or protect your heart, for out of it flow the issues of life – especially so on Valentine’s Day. No matter what our best game faces say, the heart will always reveal the true state of affairs. My prayer is that you not fall victim to loneliness and the pressure to have or be a “Valentine”. Get your head back in the game. Stay focused. Remember, choices have consequences! And the thing about consequences is that you don’t get to determine what they are or how long they’ll last.
Pray that God would allow you to see the plans and tactics of the enemy, that nothing would catch you by surprise. We have an adversary and he knows what you like and how you like it. Be discerning and don’t take the bait. Don’t allow your flesh to be stirred. Valentine’s Day is just one day, the consequences of your actions however may not be.
‘Easy for you to say’, you may be thinking. I speak from a place of experience. After dealing with what I considered to be a great loss in my life, I made a decision to no longer walk with the Lord. I told Him that I had had it with church, people and Him, that I was just going to be a backslider. And that’s just what I did. At a time in my life when I should’ve been running to Him, I decided to run away from Him. In that time I learned a lot about my relationship with the Lord or rather the lack thereof. In true relationship no thing should cause you to separate from Him. That being said, I granted the enemy legal access in my life.
Long story short, I married someone I had no business marrying. All the warning signs were there; I kept hitting the override button and proceeding forward. I made excuses. I had already been in a failed marriage and though I was 18 at the time, I was determined not to do that again. I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into but I grew to love my husband. I rededicated my life back to the Lord and agreed to have another baby (my daughter was 19 when my son was born) because my husband wanted to. It wasn’t long into the marriage when I realized my husband was cheating. Honestly, I doubt he was ever faithful. He was seeing at least 3 other women that I learned of. One he’d been with before we met and is still with her today. The heat really turned up when I left and we ultimately divorced: threats, stalking, harassment, theft, manipulation, control. I’d even go as far as to say bullying as well. Why am I telling you this and what in the ham sandwich does it have to do with Valentine’s Day? I don’t want you to go through what I experienced. I want you to know that the right kind of attention from the wrong individual during a lonely time can fool you into thinking they might be the one. I made choices and I received consequences – some short-term, some not so much.
You can make choices too. Choose to believe that you are the apple of God’s eye. Choose to believe that Abba’s love for you is unending and that He is jealous for you. Choose to see yourself as He does. You are royalty and you deserve the best!