All my single ladies! Where ya at? (I know it’s grammatically incorrect, but go with it.) So let’s talk about the meantime. You know, the space of time that happens between events, the time in between, for the time being, the interim. Yeah…that. If you’re single and desire marriage, what you do in the meantime is crucial. To be quite honest, anything you do while in your meantime s it relates to any part of your life is crucial. But for this particular blog, we’re talking singles.
Sometimes the meantime can be just that, a mean time, but it doesn’t have to be. I want to encourage you to make good use of the time you have now while in your [temporary] single state. What are you doing? Are you working on you? Are you allowing God to show you yourself (you know the things we do that God isn’t pleased with)? Have you confronted the issues of your past (forgive yourself, forgive others, apologize when necessary…)? Are you even in a place to receive what you’re asking God for? This is huge because we often ask for things we’re not ready for. What are you doing to aggressively advance God’s Kingdom? (Are you operating or being developed in the ministry/areas of ministry He’s called you to? While God is concerned about every detail concerning you, He’s also concerned about the posture of your heart. If you’ve ever heard the saying, “You’re the biggest project you’ll ever work on,” you’ll find it to be true. Some of us are so preoccupied with dating and marriage and what he better have if he thinks he’s going to get with “all of this”, that we really hadn’t even bothered to take a deeper look into what “all of this” he’s actually getting. Know that the man of God has standards and expectations too. If you’ll really allow God to develop you, you’ll find that you don’t have the time or space to be preoccupied with the romanticism of dating, marriage and fantasizing about it all. Yes, I said it! Let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with desiring to be married. I too am a single woman who desires to be married. All I’m saying is, let’s keep things in their proper perspective. Make sure you’re an asset-not a liability. Stir up the gifts God put on the inside of you. Some of you are authors, entrepreneurs, coaches, counselors, mentors, inventors, investors and bosses! Let the man of God find you busy flowing in what God called you to do.
Consider the scripture Luke 19:13 where Jesus uses a parable (story) about money usage. Even though the story is about money, see how it can relate to your meantime. I say, “your meantime” because it’s unique to you and your station or season in life. What one person does in her meantime may not be what another does in hers. The Amplified Bible says, “So he (the story is referring to a wealthy businessman) called ten of his servants, and gave them ten minas [one apiece, each equal to about a hundred days’ wages] and said to them, ‘Do business [with this] until I return.'” In other words, occupy, do business, get busy until I come for a return (with interest) on my investment. How does this relate to what to do in my meantime? I’m glad you asked. The minas or money represent the gifts, talents and abilities that God has put on the inside of you. Money has value, so do your gifts, talents and abilities. Money has direction, as do your gifts, talents and abilities. Money is a means of exchange, as is your gifts, talents and abilities. You are to do business: develop those things, allow them to make room for you, allow them to compound and gain interest until He comes for a return on His investment. And most importantly, do it unto His glory.
Many Blessings to you in your meantime,