I pray that as you read this you would become vigilant about knowing and protecting your worth. Know that you are royalty and should be treated as such for anything less would simply be uncivilized. (Some of y’all will get that.)
I am convinced that one of the reasons many of us allow ourselves to get into unhealthy relationships and situations is because we simply do not know who we are, and or our value and worth. Somewhere along the way we have accepted the lies and tricks of the enemy about who we are. Many of us have grown up in homes where we weren’t affirmed and so the world told us who we were and what our value was. We looked for acceptance and approval any way we could get it from whoever would give it. And because we don’t value ourselves, we settle. We settle for the attention of the first man who pays us some attention and we end up putting up with sub par treatment. Don’t mess around and get caught up with a Nabal (I Samuel 25)! We end up mismanaged and damaged. By the time God sends you your man of God your king, you’re beat up from the feet up. He has to chisel away layers of hurt, mistrust, rejection, low self-esteem, rage, insecurity and self hate before he can even get to you! It’s not fair to make him suffer because of what someone did to you who didn’t know the value of what he had.
Consider this. Whenever we purchase an item, say electronics for example, and have difficulty with it, we refer to the manufacturer settings to reset it back to its original state. I challenge and encourage you today return back to the Manufacturer’s settings. Return to the One Who created you. Jeremiah 1:5 says that before the Lord formed you in your mother’s womb, He knew you and approved of you as His chosen instrument, and before you were born He consecrated you to Himself as His own. Do you not know that you belong to The Most High God? He is jealous for you. He loves you with an undying love. You are His daughter and He doesn’t want you mishandled or abused.
You are highly valued. Know your worth and stop giving people (men, boys) discounts. My pastor always says that greatness never goes on sale. Stop giving boyfriends access and benefits that are solely reserved for husband heaven’s official Bae. Stop allowing yourselves be strung along with the hope or promise of marriage when you know his intentions are not to build kingdom legacy with you. You are worth so much more than that.
Don’t believe me? Read and meditate on what God says about you:
- You are the apple of His eye. You are loved, cherished and highly valued. (Proverbs 7:2; Zechariah 2:8; Jeremiah 31:3)
- You are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)
- God has awesome plans for your future! (Jeremiah 29:11)
- You are royalty and an heiress to His throne and you lead with integrity. (Romans 8:17; Galatians 4:7; I Peter 2:9)
- You are accepted. (Romans 15:7)
- You are complete in Him. (Colossians 2:10)
- A man or a relationship doesn’t complete you.
- You are His incredible work of art. (Ephesians 2:10)
- You shine like a firework in the night! (Philippians 2:15)
- You are courageous. (II Timothy 1:7)
As you read over these, ask God to show you you through His eyes. Begin to see yourself as the Father does. Hide yourself in His presence and allow Him to reset you back to His settings.